In this article we are going to talk about the How to make your boyfriend realize your importance? The most beautiful feeling in the world is when you are in love with someone. Loves makes everything beautiful. Having someone by your side to pamper you, taking care of you, loving you makes the heart happy and a happy heart makes a happy mind, which means everything looks awesome. Being in a relationship makes you to understand each other in every aspect.
But most of the people do not even try to understand each other, neither give importance to each other. Of course one of the partner will do everything to keep the relationship a good one. But if all efforts are only done by one partner, relationship becomes one-sided.
How to make your boyfriend realize your importance?
It’s my personal experience, where in my relationship I give my thousand percent in every aspect. Even my boyfriend is dependent on me for everything, but I never got anything in return, it’s not about any gift or anything, it’s about giving me importance.
It is not possible to make the relationship working properly, if only one person will make efforts. So how to make my boyfriend work on me again, here are some ways that how could I make my boyfriend realize my importance.
1. Actions speaks louder than words
Everyone knows that strong actions are always more impactful then any words. I already know that my boyfriend is taking me for granted. Due to which I feel frustrated, but I will not suffocate myself with frustration inside me, I would show my frustration through my actions. I would start disagreeing to him. If he will ask me to do his work, I will not do that work. Whenever he will say me something I will show my unhappiness to it. I will slowly-slowly behave like I am irritated while doing his work, I will make different irritated and annoying sounds and then this would definitely grab his attention and he will ask to me that why am I behaving in such a way.
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2. Start loving yourself
It is very general and often that after being committed to someone, after getting into a relationship, a girl takes her partners care more than herself, she keeps her partner at first is every aspect and do not think about herself even once, it is all because they are more serious about their relationship then themselves.
The same happened with me, so I decided to start loving myself as I used to do before. I realized that I should give myself importance too and I should pamper myself. I decided to do all the things which I love to do but after coming into the relationship, I stopped doing those things. I will go out for my own shopping and will just shop for myself. I will go to the salon for my facial, full-body spa etc. I will start giving proper time to myself and take care of myself which I actually deserve.
When my boyfriend will see me doing all the stuffs for myself, and how I am taking care of myself he cannot back off, and will sure to the same from his side to me.
3. Spend time family and friends
Each one of us who is in a relationship need to have a life outside our relationship, and it is just not for showing to our boyfriend it is for ourselves too. After being in a relationship mostly girlfriends start giving all the attention to boyfriend, and her friends are automatically being sided. So, yes to make my boyfriend realize my importance, I will reconnect to my friend circle again and have fun with them every weekend or even more of the time. I will go out with my friends and enjoy. Also I will give my family more of my time and have fun with them as well.
Of course after seeing that I have also an individual life outside of my relationship, will for sure make my boyfriend realize that I am not dependent on him, I also have my own life, he will be a little afraid of loosing me. And no boyfriend can see his girlfriend spending more time with others than him, so he will feel jealous and will start paying more attention towards me.
4. Avoid/Forget to his all works
Being a girlfriend I know how much I take care of my boyfriend. I even take care of his small things, which even do not matters to him, I do so many things for him in so many ways, without even making him realize about it. This is my fault, I am too much available for him for any of his work, this is the reason my boyfriend has started tasking me as granted, as he do not even for a second realize how much I do for him. So, I decided I will make him realize how important role I play in his life.
I will stop doing his some works like reminding him of his professional works, buying things for him. I will start avoiding some of his daily works life laundry, cleaning etc. and if he asks me that why I am not done the work, I will very politely continuously say, “Sorry, I forgot”.
After few days, when things will move in this pattern regularly, he will realize how much he is dependent on me.
5. Stop calling and texting always
As in my relationship all the efforts are from my side, to make this relation work, I feel like leftover. As I always call or message him first. He never from his side calls me or messages me. So, I decided that I am not going to call him or message him. Because I always call him and text him, he has started thinking that I am anytime available for him.
So, I wanted to make him feel that how it feels when your partner do not give you importance. I will make him call and text me. If it will not happen this way, then I will start ignoring him enough to make him feel that I have gone far away from him and he is like to loose me now. If my boyfriend really cares, he will put all his efforts to bring me back to him.
6. Get involved/busy
As I have always been available for my boyfriend, he thinks that I am anytime free for him. My life, me-myself do not have any importance. To make him feel how worth I am to him, I will not be available for him every time. I will instead take out time for myself and will do things which I was thinking from long back to do.
Giving him lesser time and giving myself more time, will make him realize my absence. When he will start feeling that, I am not there for him and his work, whenever he needs, he will check that what’s wrong.
Boyfriends generally do not understand things easily and of course on their own. They realize certain things when girlfriends make them realize about it.
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7. Disagreeing is important
Always agreeing with boyfriend will more likely is taken by boyfriend for granted. Boyfriend generally know that girlfriend will always say ‘yes’ to everything they ask and do not even ask about girlfriends opinion.
So, I decided to disagree to him, I will say ‘no’ to him and will give my opinions as well. If he will ask me do buy his stuffs, “I will say ‘no’ and tell him that I have already committed to do some work, so I will be not able to do your work”.
If in some topic he feels like what he is saying is correct and expecting to agree with him, I will not, instead I will give my own opinion.
It will make my boyfriend realize that I can take stand for myself and will respect me more.
8. I myself should realize my importance first
Mostly it happens that girlfriend do not share their feelings to their boyfriend , about how they feel at certain times, when she is taken for granted , it’s the girl’s fault because she thinks it is what she deserves.
Girls do not value themselves only, how can she expect from her boyfriend. This is the main reason of being taken for granted.
So, I decide to give myself value and importance. I need to realize my importance and worth in my boyfriend’s life. I would make him feel that any boy would me more lucky to have me in his life as a partner because at present the things I do for my boyfriend without getting anything in back, some other guy may have valued me more.
9. Talking
Talking has always been a perfect way to sort the things out. Speaking out your feelings, sharing nd talking about your problems to your partner will always help to grow a perfect relationship.
Boyfriend’s need to be told everything that they don’t realize, small to smaller and large to larger everything. So, I thought to share everything with my boyfriend with my boyfriend, about what I feel. I decided to speak out to him in every aspect that how leftover I feel, how taken for granted I feel in the relationship as all efforts are taken by myself to keep this relationship work. I will say to him about the different things I do and he even do not notice, if notices then never appreciate. I will clearly say him, that I feel that relationship has just become one-sided. I do not feel that I have even a bit of value in his life.
I will say him that I shared things out because I want that he understands me too, values me too, then only our relationship would be a good one.
10. Ignorance works out sometimes
My boyfriend do not realize my importance because, I am always there for him. So, I decided to ignore him because ignorance works out sometimes. I will start ignoring him and will observe how will he react.
I know, it would be difficult for me to ignore him, but if I want a perfect relationship, a perfect future, these steps are to be taken, so after continuously ignoring him, he must will notice my behaviour towards him and will make him feel the same as I feel (leftover). After this he will surely start doing things to grab my attention and will give me more value and importance.